Dating Chronicles # 9, Long hair tattoo boy

Long hair tattoo boy, aka Joshua, was another "catch" that I met while working as a TPS at Target. It was my senior year of college, when James and I were on yet another "break."

Joshua was 19, and I was 21. I was in school, and he was a townie, living in his grandma's basement. The first time that I saw Joshua, I was attracted to him, not in a sexual way. He was so different from anyone I had ever befriended. He was tall, well built, had long flowy hair, that was almost as nice as mine, and tattoos all over his body. He was mysterious and I was curious.

I realized that I would follow him around the store...being a TPS I didn't really do work- so I followed this 19 year old boy around like a little puppy dog. I didn't even realize that I was doing it, until I found myself in the back room helping him put saran wrap on a huge transfer...I enjoyed talking to him, our lives were completely different, we had absolutely nothing in common- I think that is why I was so attracted to him. I wanted to learn about him, attempted to get an understanding of what moved him, what made him decide to put ink all over his body.

In my mind, this attraction that I had towards him was nothing more than curiosity...I didn't want to date him- he was 19, I couldn't even go to a bar with the kid. I think that is why I was able to be so open and comfortable around him. I could be myself without any hesitation or insecurities coming into play. He was nice, and I enjoyed conversating with him.

My senior year of college, I attempted to deactivate from my sohority...I had enough...wished that I had never even rushed. I was not allowed to deactivate they needed me for my GPA (so sad) but I didn't attend any sohority functions, or pay dues. My so called "friends" stopped talking to me because I betrayed the "sisterhood." WHATEVER! Needless to say, I found myself friendless, so I had to go outside of my bubble...and I became friends with my coworkers.

One night, a group of us were going to go to some girl's house (her name couldn't tell you), Joshua was closing with us that night, so I invited him to tag along. Funny how alcohol can bring out feelings you never knew you had. All I remember from that evening is busting out into some porn-like dance routine in front of all my coworkers...great! I should add that at this point in my life it was a "goal" to be the token white girl in a rap video...lets just say that I got skillz.

After my performance, Joshua was at my side, complementing me on my skillz, for being a white girl....correction I'm a Mediterranean Islander. Soon after, the two of us started dancing and I started to feel warm fuzzes inside every time we'd brush up on each other. I was confused- really from this 19 year long hair tattooed boy...no, no, it just must be the alcohol.

The next night, somehow Joshua and another coworker of mine (Ryan) ended up coming to my place for movie night. It was known the Ryan had a crush on me, but I did not want anything to do with him in that way. He reminded me too much of James- same personality, same likes...I needed something/someone different. It was a little awkward...watching movies with theses two boys...one who was clearly interested in me, and the other one who I was crushing on. We watched movie after movie that night...some how in the middle of it all, I realize that Joshua and I are holding hands...WTF how did that happen?

I remember wanting Ryan to go home...wondering why he hadn't yet. Finally, after the 3rd movie was over, I had enough and I said it was my bed time. Ryan, being the nice guy that he is left without question. Joshua was going to walk out with him, but then lingered behind saying that he had to use the bathroom real quick. The second that Ryan was gone, Joshua and I turned to each other and started making out.

I must add that it is one of the best make out sessions that I have ever had. His lips, his touch, man just thinking about that night can stir something up inside of me. We made out for 3 hours straight...I was on cloud 9. Our relationship moved fast, I was just trying to fill the void that James had left. By the end of week one, he was already my boyfriend, we had the sex (thumbs up...those tall skinny boys I tell you!), probably had our first fight by that point too. Lets just say that Joshua was dramatic and intense and he was also republican. I knew that our relationship was going no where. I knew that somehow James and I would end up back together, and that Joshua would be nothing more then a fling.

Joshua was nice and I liked him, but he was alot to handle. We fought nonstop about politics, religion, his jealousy issues, his lack of acceptance of his illegitimate child, and his sexual orientation...I was certain that he swung both ways. It was a short lived relationship with many highlights and lowlights:

Memories:
Joshua listened to very different music then I did, in my time dating him he introduced me to what I consider angry punk music...I started to listen and enjoy bands like 3 days grace, slipknot, bowling for soup, and yellowcard. To this day I still like listening to the cd's that he made me.


Joshua was a very sexual person and together...well it was phenomenal. Marathon after marathon I tell you. One night we got through the karma sutra (I'm really flexible). I'm a fan of exploration and Joshua shared my passion in trying new things...that is probably the only thing we had in common.


So, Joshua was a phase in my life. I wanted to be naughty and adventurous...he was the perfect person. He had holes and tats all over his body, I could put my pinkie finger through his ear. He had worked at tattoo/piercing shops and had all the equipment to give them. I watched him give my friend a tattoo in my apartment and he pierced me porn style type. LOL. Yes, for 3 months of my life I had my inner labia pierced. It was the craziest thing that I have ever done in my life...it did enhance if you get my drift. Oh man...good times.


Joshua had a friend named special K, and one night he introduced me to him. Special K put me to sleep and the next morning I didn't wake up feeling so great. I ended up throwing up on a girl at McDonald's...yea I never hung out with Special K again.


Joshua was not athletic at all- the sweetest thing that he ever did for me was buy Rollerblades so he could rollerblade with me. It was the cutest thing...he kept falling, but he'd get up and try again. I will never forget that.

I loved the way that Joshua would look at me, once glance, and he had me melting. Our relationship was very physical and one look could explain it all.

Ok enough with memory lane...why did we break up? Remeber how I said that we fought about his sexual orientation? Well, I think that Joshua had a secret love affair (or at least wanted to) with his friend Charely who worked at Steak and Shake. He would go there and sit there for hours waiting for Charely...creeped me out. There was also his friend that he had a pet name for...can't remember. I was sure that they were gay lovers though. Then, there was the fact that he was going through a divorce and failed to mention that to me. Hello buddy your 19...he also asked me to marry him and run away with him- yea that was a big fat no.

James came to visit one weekend and I told him he could stay with me- Joshua not so happy with that. I didn't care, things with Joshua were fizzing out. There is only so much fighting and making up a girl can do. When Joshua would not pick me up from a bar (he was mad at me for going out with my friends) and told me to take a cab home- it was over and done with.

I have no clue what happened to him- I know went back home, to live with his parents- but the last time I heard from him was in 2005. My guess he is either dead or in jail. He was an interesting phase of my life; a great story to share and left me with memories that will last a life time.